Mum guilt, its something I think every mum goes through at some stage...
Don't feel bad, It truly shows that you care about what happens to your family. The other part is that you don’t want to be criticized by others, but we can be our worst critics even when we don’t realize it.
You need to stop worrying about what other people think and do what is best for you and your family!!
There is ALWAYS going to be someone judging your parenting skills at the end of the day but you just have to believe in yourself and know that the 'proof is in the pudding'
You yelled at your kid because they weren't listening- are they fine?? YES
You let them cry it out, are they fine??? YES
You put them in time out because they did something wrong , are they fine??YES
You picked a school but now you are second guessing, you went to the shops instead of taking them to a park, they fell and hurt themselves.......
The list will go on and on and its all because we care so much for these little people and all we want is the best for them!!!
The best way you can get rid of the mum-guilt is to learn from your mistakes and look forward to the future. Mums are not perfect, We’re only human so try not to have expectations of yourself that are impossible to reach.
STOP LISTENING TO MUM SHAMERS!!
Just because it worked for someone else does not mean it will work for you and your family! This is where a lot of guilt can stem from!!
So you don't have baby sleeping in your room or your own sanity?
Or you tried breastfeeding, but it wasn’t for you so your baby is formula fed.
Maybe you bought your kids lunch instead of cooking a healthy meal – and now you’re listening to what everybody else says you should do through social media.
STOP LISTENING!!! There is genuine advice and there is straight up criticism.
Those mum shamers don’t know you and they certainly don’t know your situation. So keep telling yourself you are doing an amazing job and what is right for YOU!!
Your never going to loose mum guilt 100% and you don't want to because it means that we care but you need to feel good about how you are raising your family and the decisions that you make are the right ones for you. Your doing the best that you can and that's all a mum ever needs to do!! Loving your family is what matters and life is too short to be worrying about what other people think.
Whatever your guilt is, take charge of it because you are the one that is in control of your own actions.
Stay strong mumma's and always ask for help if things get too much or you just need to vent and talk and know that you are not alone
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